Before you try to fix a broken relationship, you must first know what's going wrong as a couple. Here's where you should start, according to relationship experts.
You might think a broken relationship is what happens when one partner cheats, is a serial spendthrift, or has a serious drug problem. But you’d be wrong, say experts. Those issues tend to be symptoms. (Here’s the difference between healthy vs. unhealthy relationships.)
In a broken relationship, “you don’t get along more than you do get along, and your overall satisfaction with the relationship is mostly low, below 50 percent,” says Rachel Sussman, a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, relationship expert, and the author of The Breakup Bible: The Women’s Guide to Healing from a Breakup or Divorce. “That goes on and on for a long time.”
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irenelauza0
No matter how you dice it, going through a rough patch when you live together is stressful.
Plan a weekly 'couples meeting' ...
1.Learn to compromise. ...
2.Spend time with friends outside of your relationship. ...
3.Engage in affectionate physical contact. ...
4.Don't be hooked on romance.
mjoelle
Don't make any rash decisions. ... Get brutally honest. ... Seek therapy. ... Understand how you're contributing to the problem. ... Focus on healing yourself. ... Recognize your partner's pain. ... Spend some time reflecting on the good. ... Say "thank you" more often.
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You might think a broken relationship is what happens when one partner cheats, is a serial spendthrift, or has a serious drug problem. But you’d be wrong, say experts. Those issues tend to be symptoms. (Here’s the difference between healthy vs. unhealthy relationships.)
In a broken relationship, “you don’t get along more than you do get along, and your overall satisfaction with the relationship is mostly low, below 50 percent,” says Rachel Sussman, a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, relationship expert, and the author of The Breakup Bible: The Women’s Guide to Healing from a Breakup or Divorce. “That goes on and on for a long time.”
Plan a weekly 'couples meeting' ...
1.Learn to compromise. ...
2.Spend time with friends outside of your relationship. ...
3.Engage in affectionate physical contact. ...
4.Don't be hooked on romance.
Get brutally honest. ...
Seek therapy. ...
Understand how you're contributing to the problem. ...
Focus on healing yourself. ...
Recognize your partner's pain. ...
Spend some time reflecting on the good. ...
Say "thank you" more often.